Question 1

Do I have to swipe or search through profiles?

Accepted Answer

No, and you cannot. There is no browsable grid of members on RealVows. Introductions are assembled for you and delivered privately by email and WhatsApp, which is the whole point: you spend your attention on a handful of serious prospects rather than on a feed.

Question 2

How do you know everyone is a real person?

Accepted Answer

Before a profile can enter the matching pool at all, the member records a short live video on the device in front of them — it cannot be uploaded from a camera roll and it cannot be skipped. We confirm a present human recorded it and that the face matches the photographs on the profile. Anything ambiguous goes to a human reviewer, usually within a working day.

Question 3

Who can see my photographs and my last name?

Accepted Answer

Only a member you have been introduced to, and only once that introduction is delivered. Your last name, contact details and verification video are never shown to another member at any point, for any reason.

Question 4

What happens if nothing clears the threshold?

Accepted Answer

You wait, and we tell you so. We would rather send you nothing this month than send you someone scoring 51. A quiet month costs you nothing but patience — your profile stays in the pool and we keep looking.

Question 5

I am a Muslim woman. Can my wali be involved?

Accepted Answer

Yes, and the platform is built for it. In Islam a woman’s marriage is concluded with her wali — the guardian who looks after her interests — so you can name yours when you sign up. He receives every introduction you receive, with the same score and the same reasoning, and he is included the moment a conversation opens, so nothing happens in private. What he never receives is control of your account: the interest is expressed by you, and so is the no.

Question 6

Can I involve my family in the process?

Accepted Answer

Many of our members do, and the format is built for it. Every introduction arrives as a single document you can read, forward or discuss with whomever you choose. What we will not do is hand your account to anyone else — the decision stays with you.

Question 7

Can I delete my account and everything in it?

Accepted Answer

Yes, from your settings, without asking anyone. Your profile leaves the matching pool immediately and your verification video is destroyed with the account. We keep only what the law requires us to keep.

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